Buying your first vibrator: 4 tips for choosing wisely
So, you want to start using sex toys. Congrats! Choosing a vibrator for the first time can seem like a daunting task–For example, how do you know what style and speed you like? It also can be quite an investment, with some wand vibrators costing well over $100.
It might feel even more daunting nowadays if you're in a state under quarantine, and you can't just pop into a local sex toy shop or Babeland to get their expert opinion and see your options in person.
However, we're here to make it easy for you to choose your first vibrator. When it comes to living your best sex life, there are some things you should consider about your sexual health and preferences before you press that 'buy' button.
Four Questions Any Woman Should Answer Before Buying Your First Vibrator or Sex Toy
1. How do you masturbate?
Women tend to masturbate in many different positions–a majority of women masturbate while lying on their backs. But many enjoy doing it on their side or even on their belly. If you prefer any position other than your back, you should consider this when choosing a toy. Many wand vibrators are not pliable, which means using them in certain positions will be difficult for you. Look for vibrators made from soft silicone (like our Limon!) can easily be used on your belly or side.
2. How vital is clitoral stimulation versus g-spot stimulation? What kind of orgasm do you want?
What kind of orgasm do you tend to prefer? If you've never masturbated before, there's no time like now to start. Try to determine how crucial internal stimulation is for your orgasm. If high, you should consider a g-spot vibrator. If you mostly masturbate externally, focus on clitoral vibrators.
3. How important is discretion?
How much privacy do you have in your home? If your answer is, 'not a lot.' You might prefer getting a whisper-quiet vibrator so that people passing by don't hear the telltale whir of your solo sex session.
There are also many options on the market today for sex toys in more discreet shapes and sizes. For example, Dame's Pom looks like it could be a targeted muscle massager if someone were to see it in one of your drawers.
4. Who are you using this with?
If this is a solo present, buy whatever you want.
If you're buying a vibrator to use during partnered, heterosexual sex, there are some vibrators made explicitly for that purpose. However, we've found that 'couples' vibrators' designed to be used during sex are too fussy for first-timers. It's already going to be complicated during your first-time having sex while using a sex toy. You should stick with a more basic wand vibrator so you can stay focused on what matters–how great you feel.
If you're buying a vibrator for sex between yourself (as a person with a vagina) and another person with a vagina–there are some unique options like double dildos that you might want to check out. Still, again, it might be easier to stick to the basics (a wand vibrator) until you have some more experience in the sex toy department.
Best first vibrators
When it comes to the best vibrator for beginners, we're going to have to start by mentioning our own: the Limon. We might be biased, but we have some pretty solid ground to stand on here. We made a vibrator that was as quiet as possible (rated even softer than falling rain!) in an approachable, cute lemon shape.
It's simple to use–no buttons to fuss with, just squeeze and the Limon increases its intensity–the harder you squeeze, the more powerfully it vibrates for you.
Limon is made of 100% phthalate-free, body-safe medical-grade silicone. Limon has a tip that is denser than its body so it can focus on sensitive areas. It's versatile and waterproof so you can use it in any position (back, side, belly) or in any setting (bed, bath, beyond).
You'll feel deep and satisfying rumble-like vibrations while using it–unlike anything you've ever felt before. Our Limon has the unique ability to allow you to 'record' and set a vibration pattern if you find a rhythm you're enjoying, and you'd like to go hands-free.
An adorable bullet vibrator with a little extra flair, the Kip is a waterproof wand massager. It's discreet, quiet, and comes with a rechargeable battery. Hits all the bases necessary to be a great first vibe for you.
3. Je Joue Mimi Clitoral Vibrator
This luxury palm-sized vibrator comes in a slew of adorable colors with many different speed settings and vibration patterns.
4. Maude's Vibe
We keep telling you to stick with the basics, and Maude's Vibe is about as basic as it gets (which is a good thing!). This pared-down vibrator can give you both external and internal stimulation, comes with three-speed settings, a rechargeable battery, and waterproof.
A note about two of the most famous vibrators of all time:
1. The Hitachi Magic Wand
For those who feel confident that they're ready for expert clitoral stimulation level, there's the Hitachi Magic Wand. It has a long and storied history in American culture–it was probably also your mom's first vibrator. If that's a selling point for you, cool. If not, keep reading.
2. Rabbit Vibrator
Another popular option, the Rabbit vibrator, has both clitoral and g-spot stimulation and comes with dual-motors so that each of those components can move at different speeds. A pair of rabbit ears attached to the shaft of the vibrator act as clitoral stimulators (hence the name). While impressive, it is pretty intense if this is your first dip into the sex toy pool.
How to use a vibrator for the first-time
We've talked about this subject before, but it is one of our favorite questions to answer: now that you have chosen your vibrator, how do you use it?
1. Unbox and charge your new vibrator according to its instructions.
You don't want to run out of battery half-way through this first session, do you?
2. Make sure you have an extended period of alone time
No interruptions.
3. Wash your vibrator before using with soap and water
While we recommend always storing your vibrator someplace clean, you should give it a quick rinse before it touches your intimate area.
4. Settle in. Start slowly and try to follow your instinct for when to build pressure.
5. Enjoy
Any further questions? Remember that Minna customer service is always available to help answer any questions you might have about the best vibrator for you, whether it's your first vibrator or you consider yourself a sex toy connoisseur.
